Now I know what you’re all thinking .. this is another 'eat, pray, love' scenario with me sitting in nature saying yes to a green smoothie and yes to a day being mindful. Think again.
Yes is a magic word.
We so often find ourselves fearing failure, not knowing what to expect or anticipating the worst in situations. In order to protect ourselves, the easy way out is to say no. I know I used to be a repeat no word offender. Are you?
I decided to make a single small change in my vocabulary. I added yes – the three letter word that has allowed me to get more out of life.
Opportunities can be daunting but sometimes you have to step outside your comfort zone and put yourself out there. Maybe it’s going for a leadership role at school, writing for a website or even meeting a new friend for a coffee. Whatever it is, even if you don’t think you can do it, have a go! It’s not about being a ‘yes person’ or feeling pressured to do things we don’t want to do. It’s about having the courage and conviction to do the things we know we really want to do. So much so that sometimes, they scare us.
Recently, I made the biggest and scariest decision of my life – I said yes to move from Sydney to Melbourne. I moved only knowing two people so not having a secure community for the first time in my life scared me the most but hey, moving to a new city goes hand in hand with new experiences, new people – pretty much new everything.
I said yes to things I would have usually been scared to do and yes to new situations and experiences to allow myself to grow. Not only have I made new friends, but I have felt myself become more confident and independent from experiencing new situations. I even had the courage to decide that I was okay with getting things wrong.
Now, if I get things wrong I don’t see myself failing, I see myself learning – some may say I am #flearning.
I pick myself up, dust myself off and keep growing… sorry *going…well actually both.
Here are five fabulous tips to help you say YES more in your life:
- Try doing one new thing a week (that is only four new things a month): Start ballet classes, sit with someone different at lunch time, learn a new skill, go to a book club – once every week say yes where you might have said no before!
- Exercise Mindfulness: Whatever thoughts come into your head, name it for what it is and let it go. Ask yourself am I saying no out of fear? What would happen if I said yes?
- Recognise that failures and mistakes are not the end of the world: Failure is not evidence that you are unintelligent but instead a springboard for growth, for stretching your existing abilities. Reframe your thinking.
- Ask yourself what is the worst thing that could happen? And then ask yourself What is the best thing that could happen? Most of the time, the upside outweighs the downside. Like my dad always says to me face your fears and it will be fun. You go dad.
- Stretch yourself: We are all here to live the fullest version of our lives. Why not say yes, invite the possibility into our lives and the ability to learn what we are capable of (even if we don’t think we are) and see how far we can go!
I am living by these – you should too.